Safety Planning 101: Offer practical tips and guidelines for creating a personalized safety plan for those in abusive situations.
Safety Planning 101: Taking Control of Your Well-being
Navigating the path to safety in an abusive relationship requires careful planning and a commitment to your well-being. A safety plan is a personalized, practical strategy designed to help individuals cope with the challenges of domestic violence and protect themselves in times of crisis. In this vlog, we’ll explore the essential elements of a safety plan and empower you to take control of your life.
*1. Find Safe Spaces:
Pinpoint areas in your home where you can retreat in case of an emergency. Choose spaces with easy access to exits and minimal risk of injury.
Example: Choose spaces such as a bathroom, bedroom, or closet that have easy access to exits and minimal risk of injury. Ensure these areas have a sturdy lock or barricade way for added security. Practice going to these safe spaces quickly and quietly so you feel prepared in case of a crisis.
*2. Emergency Contacts:
Compile a list of trusted friends, family members, or neighbors who can provide immediate support.
Example: Share this information with them and explain your situation. Set up a code word or signal that you can use to show when you’re in danger and need help quickly.
*3. Pack an Emergency Bag:
Prepare a bag with essential items, including identification, important documents, medication, and a change of clothes. Keep this bag in a discreet yet accessible location.
Example: a bag could be placed in the back of a closet behind other items or underneath a bed, where it’s not at once visible but still easy to reach when needed.
*4. Establish Code Words:
Develop code words or signals with friends and family to discreetly communicate when you’re in danger or need help. This ensures confidentiality and swift response.
Example: Your best friend that may be aware of what’s going on, you could set up a code/phrase with them, so they would know you need help right away. The code word or phrase could be anything you and that trusted person can remember. It can be, for example, “I want some purple watermelon”
*5. Utilize Technology:
Leverage technology to your advantage. Set up a system to document incidents of abuse, keep a record of threatening messages, and use location-sharing features with trusted contacts.
Example: Use a secure app or journal to document incidents of abuse, including dates, times, and descriptions. Save any threatening messages, emails, or voicemails as evidence. Additionally, consider using an app specifically designed for personal safety, which can alert your network in an emergency.
*6. Plan Transportation:
If possible, plan escape routes and find transportation options in advance. Know the locations of public transportation, taxi services, or shelters where you can seek refuge.
Example: Find the nearest bus stops, taxi services, or safe places like shelters where you can seek refuge. Keep a list of these locations and contact numbers in a safe, accessible place. Plan and practice different routes to leave your home quickly and safely and find a trusted neighbor or friend who can help with transportation if needed.
*7. Secure Important Documents:
Gather and secure crucial documents like identification, passports, financial records, and legal papers. Consider storing copies with a trusted friend or family member.
Example: You can ask the same person we mentioned earlier that you set up a code word/phrase with that person, could be a good person to also ask to leave your important documents with them until you need it again.
*8. Connect with Support Services:
Reach out to local domestic violence shelters and support services. Familiarize yourself with their resources and have their contact information readily available.
Example: Examples: Deaf Hotline, YWCA, National Domestic Violence Hotline, and many more, you can contact them anytime, Many/several are a 24/7/365 service. Like the Deaf Hotline is!
*9. Develop a Safety Network:
Build a network of supportive individuals who can offer emotional and practical aid. Share your safety plan with them and keep them informed about your situation.
Example: Connect with individuals who can offer emotional and practical aid. This network might include trusted friends, family members, neighbors, or coworkers. Share your safety plan with them, so they know how to help you in an emergency. For instance, give a close friend a copy of your emergency contacts and let them know your code word for when you need immediate help. Keep them informed about any changes in your situation so they can offer the best support possible.
*10. Educate Your Children:
If you have children, involve them in the safety planning process. Teach them emergency procedures, and ensure they know how to reach out for help if needed.
Example: Teach them to use the phone and memorize important phone numbers, including 911, your number, and a trusted adult’s number. Find a safe room in the house where they can go if violence occurs, and practice how to quickly and quietly get there. Set up a code word that signals it’s time to leave or get help.
Conclusion: Safety planning is a crucial step towards reclaiming control over your life in the face of domestic violence. Remember, you are not alone, and help is available. Reach out to local domestic violence organizations, hotlines, or support groups to access the help and guidance you need.
By taking these proactive steps, you’re actively working towards a future free from fear and violence. Your safety matters, and your journey towards healing and independence begins with a well-thought-out safety plan.
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